Momma Deb lied when she told me,
“Don’t talk to strangers on the internet. You’ll end up scammed for all your money or in a ditch somewhere.”
(I don’t know where I get my flare for the dramatic. )
But I am telling you right now-
Meeting strangers on the internet has saved my life.
THIS POST IS LONG. AND RAMBLING. IF YOU WANT MY MAIN POINT, JUMP TO THE END. YOU’RE WELCOME.
Growing up, I didn’t really have a lot of friends. Sure, I had a group of girls I talked to, but we don’t talk to this day. And I will be the first to admit, I didn’t know or think to place value on those friendships. They were friends of convenience. A group to go out with. To shop with. And we had fun.
And I had 3 built in friends in my sisters. And I am thankful for them every day. They all are so special and different and I love them dearly.
But as I grew up, moved away and started learning who I was, I realized just how much I needed female friendships. Real friendships.
When I first started getting my sh*t together, I came across a group, well I’ll say a movement, known as IDWTBAT. It quite literally stands for ” I don’t want to be a tree”.
It’s based on the saying
“If you don’t like where you are, MOVE. You are not a tree.”
Through this group, I learned to love myself. I learned I can support other women , and still have confidence in myself. I learned that just because one woman succeeds doesn’t mean you fail.
And I joined what started as a 5am workout text accountability group. I’ll spare you the details, but this group text? Became my life line. We would talk all day. We supported each other. We geniunely cared about each others well being. it made me realize what I was missing not having these strong female friendships. They are my Ya-Ya’s. And even though I don’t talk to them as much now a days, I know if I needed anything, they’d be there.
And as the year passed and I ventured into my “Get your shit together” journey, I turned to the internet again.
I decided to use social media as a way to deal with my own health issues.
I was in a million and one PCOS support groups on Facebook. And it was all so sad. Women tearing each other down. Judging. Being disrespectful of others thoughts and opinions.
I thought to myself,
“This is so sad. There has got to be another way to bring women together in this terrible condition.”
And I met Alex. I swear, I thank God for her everyday.
We bonded over the same sentiment. That women should be supporting each other. There should be a place safe from all the negativity.
And PCOS Positivity was born.
I had NO idea so many women would respond. I still laugh thinking about how we were so excited when we hit 50 members in August. ( We now have over 2000) From there we brought on Danielle, Candi and Renee. These five women are so different. But so incredibly beautiful and wonderful and inspiring. I consider them some of my best friends. And I couldn’t do any of it without them.
And we stand strong in our mission to keep it a place safe from negativity. We encourage women. We respect one another. And it’s made all the difference. Women are coming together. Making strong female friendships. We have members from all over the world.
( Side note: I am getting to travel out of this whole thing. last night I made it all the way to Columbus, Ohio and back to ATL in time for bedtime lol)
Then, onto Instagram I went. And I’m not going to lie to you, it’s a scary thing. Putting yourself out there. Exposing yourself to complete strangers. Opening yourself up for judgement.
But I waited for it to come. And it didn’t.
All I have gotten is support. Love. Respect.
I have met people from all over the world. I have met people who live in my backyard and I never would have known if I hadn’t gotten outside my comfort zone.
And I met my soulmates. I am a strong believer that soul mates are not always your lovers/spouses/boyfriends. I have found my souls in these women. And I don’t know what I would do without them. ( You’ll hear all about these chicks later. )
MY POINT: I would have never made these connections if i didn’t venture outside my comfort zone. I learned how important women supporting other women is through complete strangers. Sometimes just putting yourself out there and showing your true self, opens up the door for amazing, true friendships.
So when my daughter is old enough, she will talk to strangers on the internet ( a highly regulated, monitored, parental controlled internet). She will talk to people at the store. She will converse with her classmates. She will be encouraged to make connections with everyone she can. Because you are only limited by the limits you put on yourself. Be yourself, and do it without apology. Don’t shrink down or change. Your people will get you. They will love you and accept you and support you. You may just have to work to find those people, But once you do- it’s worth all the money in the world.
Originally posted 2016-01-23 11:53:10.