I will tell you one thing right now. If you would have told me 5 years ago that I would one day become someone who works in the health and fitness world, I would have laughed at you. Then I would have referred you to your local psych ward because, well, you must be insane.
Up until a year ago, I really had no idea what healthy was. It was this fluid notion that skinny meant healthy, or weighing a certain amount was healthy, or fitting in to what everyone thought was attractive at the moment was healthy.
I, my dear friends, was far from healthy-mentally or physically. I went in vicious cycles of full blown disordered eating, to over exercising and restricting until the point of failure (because over restriction will cause failure.) , to that failure leading me to depression where I just gave up and didn’t care, which led me right back to disordered eating to try to correct it.
Add in PCOS, which makes it even more difficult to lose weight and feel healthy, and I felt I was destined to be this person constantly dieting and forever wishing she felt good about herself.
I, like so many others turned to the internet for what I thought would be inspiration to get healthy. I filled my feeds with perfect fitness models, super mom bloggers doing it all while still managing to have a rocking bod and clean house, to every jo schmo from high school trying to sell me anything and everything to solve my problem.
And I found myself sad and feeling less than. I once again felt like the fat girl on dance team pretending she had the stomach flu to avoid crop top uniform night. This wasn’t motivating me. This was defeating me. Where were all the normal women like me? Who chose leggings and struggle buns on the regular and don’t have full on contour at the gym? The girls who have been in the trenches of depression from not loving themselves? Where were the ones who have eaten Ben and Jerry’s for dinner and cried because they didn’t understand how to control it? Where were the women who are showing me that, “Hey, life has been really sh*tty. And it’s not fair. But if I can get healthy and happy through my storm, so can you.”
I worked with personal trainers who intimidated me. I worked with “coaches” who disappeared as soon as I bought the shake. I tried it myself, as silly as I looked, all on my own.
Eventually, I decided that I needed to become the person I needed. I turned to social media in hopes of sharing my story, and found I connected with so many women who had been where I was those years ago. And realized what a great need there is for health and fitness coaches that not only have the knowledge of fitness and nutrition, but also the experience of going through it themselves. It is very hard to help someone who you don’t understand where they are coming from.
I had to learn on my own and through lots and lots of failure what worked for me. I lost 55lbs and have kept it off give or take 5 lbs either way for over a year. But even with losing weight, I didn’t feel like I could fully help someone else just yet.
So quietly, I started researching. I spent late nights reading and emailing and researching everything and anything to do with the science behind PCOS, disordered eating, recovering from a damaged metabolism from a history of severe restriction, and how to apply it to your health. I also became double certified and in Weight Loss and Fitness Nutrition (NASM). I started applying my own experience getting healthy, education, and my own research and discussions with others that have been through what I have in my own life. Selfishly, this was all for me. I knew I couldn’t help anyone if I didn’t help myself.
This soon became my passion, and the small flicker of an idea to help others grew. It spread through my heart like wildfire.
I created Get Your FIT Together with Shelby for those girls just like me. I want to help the girl who is tired of quitting. I want to help the girl who is scared of the gym and nutrition and has no idea where to start, and just needs the help figuring it out.I want to show the girl who has suffered from disordered eating and years of restriction that food is not the enemy. I want to be the person who reminds you that you are enough and that you are worth it. I want to give you the tools to change your mindset from always feeling like you are on a diet and break the calendar mentality and teach you how to think of it as a lifestyle change. I want to show you that mental progress is just as important as physical progress. I want to show you that being happy and healthy isn’t just for those perfect people you see on the internet. It’s for everyone, despite your past, your starting point, your diagnosis or your mindset. And most importantly, I want to be the person I needed back then when I felt so lost.
So here I am, announcing that this girl, is excited to be the person I used to hate- a health and fitness mentor. I say mentor, because I feel the word coach is thrown around too often and takes away from the importance of it. Trainers often focus solely on the fitness portion of it.( You are not a health and fitness expert because you buy a shake and a dvd. ) Because in the sea of fitness and health personalities flooding you with quick fixes, unrealistic expectations, and intimidating into thinking the answer to health is “skinny”, I want to be the person who shows you it’s more than that. You are more than that. It is hard. But you can do hard. And I will be there, helping you each step of the way. Because you are so worth it.
If you are interested in learning more about my programs, check out the GYFT programs section of my site! Or email me at Coachshelby@survivingshelby.com
Originally posted 2016-06-08 11:50:57.